After seeing a guy rant on social media I was inspired to write this piece……
The guy said, ” I don’t have exes, I have EX-amples of what not to do anymore.”
Though he was a little bit more explicit in his verbiage, his thought resonated with me.
Even though you may have an Ex that you are on good terms with or the two of you separated without drama…there is a reason why they are in fact your ex. I would like to think that we each take something from our past relationships.
Each of them should have taught you something. Either it revealed something to you about yourself, or it showed you something about your significant other or basically about men ( or women) in general.
After you end a relationship, or a relationship was ended with you, did you take the time to actually reflect on it? When I say reflect, I mean did you actually sit to yourself, reflect and think about why it ended? Was it his fault? Yours? What happened?
I feel like in each relationship if it’s in the Universe’s “plan” to end, then that’s the inevitable, however, I do think that there are certain lessons that can be learned.
For example, if you were hurt by the other person, not to say that it was your fault, but was there anything that looking back, you allowed? By this I mean if he cheated, had he done that before? Did you take him back? Or even if he didn’t cheat, was he controlling and you just could not take it anymore? Were there double standards in your relationship? Did things apply to you, that he didn’t acknowledge for himself? Did he show lack of respect in certain aspects of your relationship? These are only a few examples, I realize that there is a very wide span of reasons as to why a relationship ultimately ends. What about communication? Was there a huge lack of EFFECTIVE communication? On who’s part? Do you honestly know how to communicate with a mate? Did they know how to communicate with you? Were you involved with someone that always saw things one sided? If so, what did that teach you going forward? Or maybe someone said that you didn’t listen. This is something to be honest with yourself about and take into consideration. Do you always think you know everything? Be honest…
Sometimes the example we need to learn from, isn’t from the other person, but from ourselves. Maybe we were the reason why things didn’t turn out the way we thought they would and we have to recognize something within our own self that we need to work on.
The Warning Signs…..