Just like with most things in life, there comes an ending. The ending will look different for everyone. Some will be unexpected, some will be scary, but some endings will also be beautiful and necessary.
When a season of your life ends this is a pivotal time in your world. It means that you are inevitably going to begin a new season with hopefully a new and more refreshed outlook on your future whether that be short or long term.
As you process through this solo season you should have had experienced multiple moments of reflection. Moments where you were faced with really deep diving into your thoughts on certain areas of your life and hopefully you were able to resurface with clarity.
If you come to a point where you believe you are ready to end a phase or cycle or a season as you’ve known it to be, I think it’s always helpful and self serving to ask yourself some reflective questions.
How am I feeling about this ending?
Where are you at mentally and emotionally? If there were any deep feelings of turmoil or confusion or frustration throughout this season, have you since been able to resolve those feelings?
What have I learned?
No matter what the circumstances, there should and will always be lessons to learn from any process we go through. The key is recognize them and learn from them. Find the value in them.
What changes, for the better, do I expect to come from this?
What was the best possible outcome you could achieve in this season? Did you achieve it?
How have I grown through this season?
It’s extremely important that you are able to answer this question. The fruit of your labor in this season is through growth. If you don’t think you’ve grown at all, should this season really end at this time?
Remember that some endings are forced and we have no choice but to find a form of closure in them, but when we speak about the Solo Season and it’s ending, we are actively making a decision to come out of this period where we chose to intentionally focus solely on ourselves and where healthy isolation should have allowed us to focus on self care, self awareness and self love.
When we come out of our solo season, it is with hopes that we have been able to prepare ourselves for the next season, the next chapter or just simply the next day.
Remember your journey, your pace.
This entire season was supposed to be about you and your needs. You gave yourself the permission to be a little selfish but for good cause. We should always be working to be the best version of ourselves and sometimes that requires you to go inward in order to find out how to do so.
Self Reflection Question: What personal goals am I going to now prioritize for myself that I may have been putting off?
Taking the intentional time to focus on how you are showing up for yourself in the world will also allow you to better define your own goals.
Maybe there has been some things in your life that you have set aside because you’ve been dedicated to showing up for other parts of your life as a priority . Things like your career, your family, your friends, relationships are all commonly seen as a priority to us and even though they are of importance, the priority still has to always be you and your self care, this is how you are able then to pour into others.
I hope that you were able to really gain clarity about your goals and your purpose and truly nurture them your own time.
Self Reflective Question: How has this season helped me to communicate and coexist with others?
And even though this solo season was designed to bring self fulfillment into your life, it is still okay to acknowledge how this season can and will have an impact on your relationships with other people.
You work on yourself for yourself, but there is always an investment that you are making into your other relationships…to show up in those connections fully and positively and most importantly as a more effective communicator. To be able to effectively communicate to those that you choose to dialogue with during this time , plays a role in this season as well.
Remember this is a season of healthy isolation, which means that there may be some individuals that you will want to open up to on how you’re actively working on yourself. Always keeping in mind that this is your discretion. You share with whom you are willing and how much you are willing to share.
Transparency & Closure
My personal solo season has been about healing. Healing parts of my heart that were damaged and restoring the self love that was dissolved in the process. I recognize that I allowed a sense of loyalty to everyone but myself to choose the narrative of my life and so choosing to go into a solo season has given me a different perspective of my life…for the better.
Now almost two years into my solo season, my ability to create healthy boundaries for myself has been one of the most important aspects and lessons I could have learned.
With that came a refreshed and revived sense of self love. I am re-learning how to enjoy my own company, identify my own needs and gain uninterrupted clarity on what I want the next few years of my life to embody.
My hope for the person reading this is that you are amazing. I hope that you are happy and healthy and leveling up your self care indefinitely. I hope that you have peace of mind and your well being is intact. However should you feel as though you lack anything that you know you need for yourself, give yourself the honor and the grace to retreat into a season of solitude and embrace getting back to you.
Until next time my Lovelies,
Peace & Blessings
Blog Queen
If you haven’t already check the previous 4 parts to this series all dedicated to self care in your solo season.
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